“You are not your husband’s Holy Spirit.” How many times would I have to hear that phrase before I actually took it to heart?
I’m sure you know how it is. You love your husband, and you truly do want God’s best for him. Only, it seems you constantly disagree on what that is; what it looks like and how to accomplish it.
Oh, how I’ve been there.
How to Build Up Your Husband Through Prayer
There’s something about having things done my way that brings a sort of peace to my anxious, unsettled soul. It’s a false sense of security; I’ll admit. And it hasn’t done my marriage any favors.
The reality is that it’s not my job to shape my husband; but it is my responsibility, as his wife, to use my influence in a way that uplifts, equips, and supports him. I can do that in three ways:
1. The way I talk.
2. The way I act (which should back the words I speak).
And most importantly,
3. The way I pray.
5 Ways to Pray for Your Husband
Pray for his Relationship With God
When you have a strong relationship with God you become more confident in your ability to lead, to make wise choices, and navigate difficult circumstances. Why? Because you are able to hear from God and receive His direction. It’s impossible to demonstrate God’s love or lead a family towards Christ when your relationship with God is nonexistent (or even stagnant). To lead well your husband needs a relationship with Jesus.
What to Pray: Pray your husbands relationship with God grows; that God would always come first in both of your lives. Pray that he does not become stagnant or shy away from honoring God in all he does, but that He would boldly stand for God in everything he does. Pray that he would discern, know, and follow the leading of the Holy Spirit so that he is equipped to lead where He has been positioned.
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.” Deuteronomy 6:5
“As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15
Pray for his Friendship.
I think it was Jim Rohn who said, “You are the sum of the 5 people closest to you.” Have you seen this to be true in your circle of friendships? I have, time and time again; and I am convinced that the people we surround ourselves with impact our conduct, our perspectives, and our lifestyles.
This isn’t just Jim Rohn’s opinion, this is biblical truth. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.” Your husband needs good friends in his life but those roles shouldn’t be given to just any man that auditions. It’s important that he surrounds himself with friends that are chasing after God just as diligently as both of you are.
What to pray: Pray that God put men in his path that will love him, uplift him, and above all encourage him in the direction of God (no matter the circumstances or the cost).
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Pray that the Word of God Would Be Alive In His Heart
“Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God.” Roman 10:17
Bold faith and powerful leaders go hand in hand. Faith comes from hearing and receiving the Word of God as truth. It’s not enough to know the truth. If we want to live powerful lives, we need to live in agreement with God’s Word.
What to pray: Pray that God’s truth would be ALIVE in your husband’s heart. Not just something he has heard or something he knows, but something that radically affects the way he lives, leads, and follows.
Pray for his Purity.
Purity is an area of men’s lives that the devil loves to attack. The fact that most young men are introduced to sexual temptation and stimulation in their youth makes it that much easier for the devil pile stumbling blocks in front of your husband. What the devil underestimated is that fact that your husband has the prayer covering of a faith-filled, spirit empowered, and God-appointed wife who is going to take a stand for her husband’s purity.
What to pray: Pray God would guide the thoughts and intentions of your husband’s heart. Ask Him to be a shield around your husband’s eyes, ears, and lips; that everything he does in word or deed would be done as if unto tGod (Colossians 3:17).
“The words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable to you oh Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.” Psalm 19:14
Pray for his Integrity.
Your husband is only human. Because of that, you can expect there will be circumstances that test your husband’s faith and integrity. Times when doing the right thing is hard. It will seem easier, or sometimes even safer, to concede to the pressures of this world. And in those time, what he will need most is the boldness and the grace to walk with unwavering integrity.
What to pray: Pray your husband clings to righteousness, especially when temptation lingers. Pray that God’s grace would cover his weaknesses and that he would be quick to act rightly.
“To do righteousness and justice is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice.” Proverbs 21:3