How to Apply the Biblical Purpose of Marriage to Your Everyday Life
Why do people get married and stay married? Maybe you found this post and are thinking about getting married. Even some of us who have been married a while wonder what is the point when marriage is hard. Today we will look at how to apply the Biblical purpose of marriage to your everyday life to help work through some of those hard questions.
“What is the purpose of matrimony?”, someone asked me the other day. This is not an uncommon question for Millennials who chose to live together instead of getting married. Honestly, this is also a common question among wives who are in having hard times in marriage.
How do you answer that question Biblically?
It would be nice if there was a book of the bible titled: The Biblical Purpose of Marriage. Sadly there is not and we are left to learn about God’s plan and purpose of marriage today from the examples He gave and the advice He inspired through scripture.
Before we get started, let’s see the advice in scripture.
The Purpose of Marriage Bible Verses
The word marriage is mentioned 27 times in the Bible. God has a lot to say about marriage and to those who are married, which shows us He puts a high priority on the institution of marriage!
Marriage points us back to God
Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,”
God places loyalty in marriage above loyalty to a nation
Deuteronomy 24:5 “When a man takes a new wife, he shall not go out with the army nor be charged with any duty; he shall be free at home one year and shall give happiness to his wife whom he has taken.
The Two become one flesh in marriage becoming more holy
Matthew 19: 4-6 And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”
Marriage was intended to be honored by all
Hebrews 13:4-7 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers, God will judge. Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He, Himself has said, “I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you,” so that we confidently say, “The Lord is my helper, I will not be afraid. What will man do to me?” Remember those who led you, who spoke the word of God to you; and considering the result of their conduct, imitate their faith.
God ordained Marriage and blesses those who are married
Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing And obtains favor from the Lord.
Today we will examine 2 of those points that teach us the Biblical Purpose of Marriage.
1. Marriage Points the World to God
The Biblical Purpose of Marriage is to point the lost world back to God by giving them a living breathing example of God’s relationship with us as the body of Christ. One clear passage that shows us this is Ephesians 5:22-33.
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Submission to your husband mirrors submission to God.
:22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
No, I didn’t say you must submit to your husband in a way that implies he is God to you. That’s not what this passage is saying. Biblical Submission to your husband is a choice you make to honor God. You submit to him because God placed your husband as the head of the family.
The mirror image here is reflecting that God is the head of us all and we submit to Him out of obedience.
When the discipline of submission is shown in marriage the lost world is lead to God. Sharing the gospel is a powerful purpose of marriage today!
Loving of your wife mirrors Christs Love for the Church
:22- 27 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.
God’s love is perfect, unconditional, covering all of our weakness and flaws. A husbands love will never be perfect, but when he loves selflessly it gives the lost world a glimpse of the love of God.
2. Marriage Makes You More Holy
In the beginning, God observed that it was not good for man to be alone and created Eve as a companion, a helpmeet for him. Somewhere along the way we’ve equated that partnership with happiness and we feel jipped if we are not perfectly happy in marriage all the time. But think back to the first marriage. Were they happy all the time? Nope. They took their eyes off God and fell into sin. The Biblical purpose of marriage is not to make you happy but to make you holy!
Marriage will have happy moments but the journey of a lifetime spent together is more about working holiness into each other. If you are still not sure about this idea of a holy marriage rather than a happy marriage, take a look at this list of marriages in the bible.
- Adam & Eve with leadership struggles and sin
- Abraham & Sara with impatience and bigotry
- Issac & Rebekah with favoritism and deception
- Elkanah & Hannah with disappointment and comparison
- Hosea & Gomer with infidelity and abandonment
To study more marriages in the bible check out this devotional that looks at the lives of biblical couples through scripture and shines a light on the things we can learn from them. Through God’s Eyes: Marriage Lessons for Women.
Marriage sanctifies you
1 Corinthians 7:12-15 …For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband…
There is a sanctifying piece about spending life together. I think of it like that rough stone that falls into the wild river. As it is carried about by every current, knocked against other stones it is being smoothed. Jagged edges are chipped away until one day the stone is smooth and beautiful. Marriage smooths our impatience, selfishness, and immaturity until we are patient, loving and mature – more like Jesus. No, you will never become a perfect Christian wife, but you will begin to exemplify the characteristics of a godly wife.
How to apply the Biblical purpose of Marriage to your everyday life
The Biblical purpose of marriage is to make you holy and point the lost world to God. How do you apply that to your everyday life? There are two actions you can take today to see a dramatic change in your marriage.
- Stop aiming at happiness as the ultimate goal of marriage – or life for that matter.
- The Bible promises us the Joy of the Lord but never a happily ever after. When you stop aiming at happiness and start keeping your eyes fixed on Jesus marriage gets a lot easier.
- Stop looking at the culture as your example of a good marriage.
- Our culture has no idea how to make a marriage last a lifetime. Instead, look to the Bible to find out how to do marriage God’s Way. God has a plan for marriage that will give you hope and joy in the journey!
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