How Having (or Being) A Mentor Can Help You Find Your Purpose And Deal With Life Changes
Do you need a mentor to help you through life changes? Or would you like to be that woman who helps a younger woman along?
Are you struggling to find your purpose and a way to help reach the next generation for the Lord?
You are not alone.
Did you know that the Millennials are hungry for someone to know them by name, care and persevere in a face-to-face lasting relationship? This is what I call a mentoring relationship.
Mentoring is a win-win situation: Younger women are encouraged and grow as the women further along in their walk with the Lord, find new purpose. Perhaps you are longing to find a mentor, or you’d love to become one.
I received my mentor in my early college years. I can’t imagine going through my college days, young married years, my kids’ terrible twos, career transitions, the death of my parents, and countless other rattling life events without the support of mentors.
Now, years later, I have the privilege of mentoring younger women. Some are young professional businesswomen, teachers, musicians, designers or moms. Some have cute little apartments; others have rambunctious little ones. As we sit and talk over lattes or sweet tea, I am inspired by their courage and honesty. Their eagerness to grow and change and become. Their heart to love people and join God in doing good.
A Tool for Growth
“Mentoring is never about us. It’s about God working in us to prepare us for what He wants to do through us. Finding our purpose. And you don’t have to be an expert to mentor someone else. It’s about seeing the potential in another woman and walking with her in becoming who God created her to be. You can do that now!”
Many women admit in our conversations over a cup of coffee, “As soon as I start thinking and praying about mentoring someone, a million insecurities pop up in my mind. All those lies of not being good enough and not having anything to offer creep back in. How do I know where God is leading me? How do I know this is God’s plan for me? I’m excited about the possibility of investing in others, but where do I start?”
Here are 4 Tips to help you connect and get started in a mentoring relationship:
1 | Pray and Walk across the room, introduce yourself and start a simple conversation
2| Share what you admire about them and how you see their potential in Christ
3 | Be Authentic and transparent. Share the short version of your God story.
4 | Invite them to meet for coffee and conversations in the following week.
When you step outside of yourself and intentionally step into another woman’s life—taking time to care, to listen, to encourage, to share what God’s taught you—that’s passing on the baton of faith. We were created with purpose and a plan and God desires for us to share our faith with others. All we need to do is share what the Lord has done for us.
I want to encourage you! Many women are dealing with life changes. Whether it is a new season of their personal life, new job, new move to a new city or new family dynamics. God did not intend for us to do life alone. All of us need a mentoring relationship that guides and helps us through life.
Now is the time to pass the baton on to the next generation. You and I are right now living out the scripture, Esther 4:14 “…And who knows but that you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?”
How Christ Paved the Way for Mentorship
“We are hardwired to connect with others, it’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering. Connection gives purpose and meaning to life.” Brene Brown
The only way to get across the finish line is together! Cheering each other on, crying together, celebrating together, sharing our stories, instilling hope, receiving new life, and fixing our eyes on Jesus until we get home.
God has already gone in front of you, paving the way for where He wants to use you. Look. Listen. Notice. Mentoring is an investment that will outlast you and live on long after you are gone. God longs for you and me to speak life to each other and pour into the next generation. God encourages all of us to share our God stories in Psalm 78:4 “…we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the LORD, his power, and the wonders he has done.”
Now it’s your turn. God calls us to share our God stories with each other. Step out. Challenge yourself. Go after the dreams God has put in your heart. Give yourself away. Invest in the next generation and draw them closer to God. Talk with God about your next step. Who is God bringing across your path? How can you pour your life into them?
Join the conversation. Tell us why you need a mentor, why you’d like to become one, or what experience you’ve had pouring into the life of another woman.
Jayme is a graduate of New York University with a teaching degree in Speech Communications and Musical Theater. She is an entrepreneur, Award-Winning author and Podcast Host, Certified Coach, and Mentor. In addition to teaching and speaking, she has spent a lifetime encouraging people to invest in others and make a positive difference in today’s culture for Christ. Jayme and her husband John, call Franklin TN their home and have three grown married children and 5 happy grandchildren. She loves to share her God stories and hear others share theirs. In her free time Jayme likes to sing Broadway tunes, cook, and entertain friends and family.
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