Praying for Your Spouse and Marriage
I’ve heard it said that prayer can move mountains; encouragement I was happy to take as a wife because boy did our marriage have a some mountains that needed to be moved. Not just moved; but decimated. Obliterated. Completely destroyed.There isn’t really a nice or gentle way to put it. These “mountains,” obstacles, whatever you to call them HAD. TO. GO. If it were true that prayer and faith could move mountains, and your marriage was in trouble, wouldn’t you start praying for your spouse and marriage too?
When Your Strength Is Not Enough
I’m not one who likes to ask for help. It’s an uncomfortable thing for me even when I’m praying to God. I know He loves me. I know He tells me to lay my burdens at His feet (Psalm 55:22 and Matthew 11:28-19). I know the problems are better managed in His hands. But even knowing all this, I still find it hard to surrender sometimes. I find myself battling in my own strength instead of allowing fighting for my own desires instead of simply allowing God to take the wheel.
I realized if I was going to do marriage God’s way, I was going to have to make a change. My strength was simply not enough to sustain our marriage. We needed Jesus at the center or it. Which meant my husband and I were going to have to set our pride aside and inviting God to make changes in our hears that would honor Him and result in a thriving marriage.
3 Helpful Tips for When Praying For Your Spouse
It’s one thing to know that prayer is the answer. It’s another thing to understand what exactly it you’re praying for or even how to pray. I know some people cringe when conversations like, “how to pray,” come up, but honestly, how we pray matters! There may not be a universal script or law book for prayer but there are things that we can do to prepare our hearts for prayer and the changes that God brings as a result of our prayers. These three tips can help you navigate your prayers when praying for your spouse while also setting the standard of Christ as foundation for your marriage.
When we prayer we:
1 | Pray Selflessly
Jesus set this example for us in when praying The Lord’s Prayer in Matthew 6:10 when praying, “thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.” Praying in this way helps us ensure that we are putting God’s desires for our marriage (and life) above our own. It makes honoring Him the priority that exceeds every other desire, including our own.
2 | Pray Biblically
If the Word of God is the truth that we stand on, it only makes sense that we pray according to what we know is true and in accordance with how God calls us to live. For us to be able to carry this out, we have to make an effort to be in the Bible, reading God’s Word so that we know what to declare and petition for.
3| Pray Diligently
Can I be real with you? for a second? Sometimes it’s going to feel like a chore. Sometimes it’s going to feel like a burden. Some days you’re going to feel like giving up. Please, don’t! It can be hard for us to wrap our heads around it but God’s timing really is perfect. And He really is aiming to work things out for your good and His glory (Romans 8:28). It can be hard to see sometimes because His ways are so much different than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9) but honey, you can trust in God. Learn to be diligent in the pursuit of Him and a marriage that honors Him.
Ready to Put These Tips to Practice?!
Jennifer and Aaron Smith are hosting a 31 Days of Praying for Your Spouse Challenge and we’re inviting you to join in!
- Cultivate a habit of praying daily for your marriage
- Learn how to pray scripture over your spouse.
- Learn what God says about marriage and how you can honor Him in it.
Enter the 31 Days of Praying For Your Marriage GIVEAWAY!
- 31 Prayers for My Husband by Jennifer Smilth
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