How well are you living your single season?
Think about that question for a while. Are you living your single season well?
That’s a question that many of us don’t ask ourselves because we’re constantly being reminded that we need to be in a relationship so we can get married.
We’re getting older, right? Therefore, we MUST hurry and get married. Says who? It breaks my heart that society put so much pressure on single women.
What are we to do as singles in this case? Feel sorry for ourselves because we haven’t met the right one? Should we introduce ourselves to every guy we meet so we can find out if he could potentiality be our husband??
You can do all the above, but I can tell you that’ll be a waste of energy and time (nothing is wrong with meeting a guy here and there).
The Pressure to Avoid Being Single
It starts young, the pressure to avoid being single. When I was in high school, it felt as though I was the only single person there. Why? Because I was constantly being asked, “when are you going to have a boyfriend?” I very much thought about how great it would have been to have a boyfriend, but I noticed most of the relationships around me did not last. I decided, “Eh, let me wait until I graduate high school”. When I started college, I had a conversation with myself and decided to not date just to date. It took me a couple of years before I met someone I liked and that’s okay. Don’t get me wrong, I would have loved to have someone bring me lunch after a long sleepless night of studies. It would have been nice to have someone I could share my deepest thoughts with, but that wasn’t the case until way later.
Did I spend the days in my single season mourning and wondering where he is?
No! I decided that if God wants me to be in a relationship, so be it. But if he wants me to stay single, so be it as well.
After a while, I learned that God did not want me to be single- the desire to be in a relationship was still in my heart. The difference was, after my conversation with God, I decided until God puts someone on my path that I see as my future husband- I would spend my days focusing on getting to know Him, living out my purpose and being intentional about building genuine and godly friendships.
Can you say that to God with your whole heart? Can you tell him may His will be done in your life? If not, why not? If God’s will for your life is for you to be in a relationship, are you spending your days dreaming of what it would be like or are you living your best life right now?
Sisters, our purpose for being on earth is not to “get married”.
God placed us on this earth so we can make His name known and glorify Him in every season we’re in. Our single season is meant to be used to glorify God. How are you glorifying Him in your current season?