I tend to judge myself more than I love myself. It’s easy for me to see and fixate on the things I don’t like about myself; like the fact that I’m only 5’2″, I’m heavier than I would like to be, my hair is too frizzy to manage, I’m a really impatient person, and I struggle with letting things go. How easy was that? It took all of 10 seconds.
But if you ask me what I love about myself my ability to answer that question would immediately be shattered and my thoughts redirected to another realm of thinking. If my brain were a computer screen you might see some of these words battling for space:
Selfish. Conceited. Self-centered.
Challenging What God Calls Beautiful
There’s a conflict that arises when you ask me to see the good in myself. I’m not sure where this conflict originated from and how it has become something that takes up space in my mind. Since when did it become wrong to love who we are? Why do I feel the need to shy away from love who God created me to be?
Why is it that when we identify with beauty in ourselves (inside and out) we have to battle the criticism others project on us?
It is not selfish to love who you are. It’s not selfish or conceited, self-centered or arrogant. There is nothing wrong with adoring who God created you to be.
Because God Said So…
“How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them!
Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand —
when I awake, I am still with you.”
So if God speaks so many precious thoughts about us that they would outnumber the grains of sand (like we have the ability to count every grain of sand anyway) surely it is okay for you to love yourself! Surely it’s ok for you to wear the crown He’s given you.
Why does this matter?
Well, here’s the kicker. I believe that how we think about ourselves and how we feel about ourselves is a direct reflection of how we love on other people. Actually, that’s a biblical standard (Matthew 22:39), not just my belief. It’s important for you to love you because you have been instructed to love others in the same way you love yourself.
So now that we have established a foundation and built a framework, let’s talk about this:
10 Ways to Love Yourself Fiercely
1. Get on God’s level.
God has a lot of inspiring things to say about you! We talked about a few of them earlier but in case you need more than that, check out some of the cool things God says about you.
2. Stop Comparing.
Seriously, you were made to stand out! You were made to be different! You were made in God’s image and He calls you good. Actually, He calls you very good (Genesis 1:31).
In a world that likes to flaunt our failures in our faces, it’s important to know what we are good at. Know your strengths and be proud of them. Use them to better yourself (or better yet the people around you).
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4. Take Care of Your Body.
We take care of the things we love, right? So take care of yourself. Eat like you love your body, move like you love your body, and rest like you love your body. Be a good steward of you.
5. Be Gracious to your “downfalls.”
We can’t all be good at everything, but there’s no need to feel down about the areas of our lives that aren’t where we want them to be. Be gracious with yourself. Forgive your downfalls and press onto greatness. Because you are great.
6. Support Yourself.
Find ways to support yourself in your goals and dreams. Write them down and go for it! And when you’ve done all you can on your own, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes asking for help is the best way to support yourself.
7. Speak Kindly to Yourself.
Speak life, and throw criticism out the window. It has no place in your mind, heart, or life.
8. Find something you love to do and do it often.
I love to blog, dance and sing. And trust me, I do them all often. It doesn’t have to be some big purposeful thing. It just needs to be something for you. A desire God placed in you for this very purpose, to enjoy life. Running, reading, swimming, sketching, DIY projects; ANYTHING. Find something to be passionate about and pursue it.
9. Live Life Like It Matters.
Because it does. The choices that you make, the things that you say, your day to day actions; they matter. You matter. Your opinion and your voice make a difference when you walk the talk. So live life like it matters. Advocate for yourself.
10. Love Yourself Where You Are At.
Don’t wait. You don’t have to accomplish anything spectacular to become someone worth loving. Love yourself where you are at.
Now I know you’ve got some awesome tips to share too. I’d love to hear them! Drop your thoughts in the comment below!
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